You know, I've pictured it many times over many years. My 21st birthday. How big and grand would it actually be? Will I be clubbing or vacationing, will I look good or have gained a ton of weight, will I have friends there or be all alone? And in the recent years I feared that it was going to be just my husband and I, like the past 4 years before.
My last, big Birthday, was my 16th. Tons of friends over at my old house. I would like to say there was around 20 people there or more and it was a total blast!
That was how I was used to celebrating on my birthday, I loved it, and it always meant a lot to me.
After that I had moved to california and hadn't really gained any friends until recently.
So those landmarks of reaching the next age hadn't been very memorable,
and I feared my 21st had been the same way.
To put things into perspective for a minute, let me inform you that the way I've always seen it for some reason, is my 21st is my last BIG BANG. Doesn't mean I can't/won't celebrate big in later years. But its always been a symbol to me of marking the years i view as my prime years. It's the birthday that is the big one, marking adulthood more then 18 or 20 could. Its that birthday that everyone asks, "so what did you do for your 21st?"
For me, a birthday is the one day, where you know and are shown that people are thinking of you and love you. It's YOUR day. It's a reason to party, and celebrate and you don't ever feel left out. It's a day where you just feel special.
So this day, that I had been waiting and thinking about for years, has meant a lot to me, and just 6 months ago, I feared it wouldn't feel like a landmark. I feared I wouldn't be able to do anything that would make a lasting impression.
I was wrong! and happily so :)
My big day may not have been what I pictured years ago, but honestly for who I am now, I think it was better. Sure it could have been even better, in reality it wasn't the BEST day of my life or anything.
But it was way more than I expected to have, and I was truly blessed.
So let me tell you about it ...
Preparation:
I had decided to plan a dinner out at Chapter one, with everyone I knew out here invited. and what's a birthday dinner without cake? :p So I spent the two weeks before my birthday searching for the perfect cake place to make my cake. I know that sounds a bit excessive, but thats me, lol. After realizing that I could decorate my own cake the way I wanted, and all the mattered was taste, I decided to go with the Sugarpine Bake Shop in Big Bear, CA. However there was a problem, by the time I had finally decided, it was 4th of July weekend and I couldn't get ahold of the owner, Trish. I was told she was busy, and to call back, and when I had called next, she had left for the day and didn't work on mondays or tuesdays and had to email her. I emailed her and awaited by my phone. Jumping on my phone every day it made the email noise,
but she never emailed back. So Wednesday came around (2 days before my birthday) when she finally was in the shop, and she said she was booked for the weekend and that I should have emailed or called ahead of time.
....yay....(not)
So that day I was out with Alexis and we were driving around town hanging out and my mother was checking her area for cake places while she was out at a doctors appointment, and found me a last minute place who would do make cake, with just enough black fondant to cover the size i was looking for. What are the chances right?
after finally deciding what to do for decorations last minute, going to Michael's, finding the flowers I wanted, finding edible gold paint and painting them, then finding the large numbers 21 candles, scraping off the ugly circus colored polka dots (mind you, it took two hours of shaving), and spray painting them, and the 21 gold balloons. I was ready :p
The Birthday:
7/11/14
My day started heading into LA to the Bottega Louie for lunch. A place I had wanted to eat at for 8 months and never got a chance to.
Thankfully after getting a bit of a late start, and some traffic we got there and didn't do to bad on parking.
Something I had prayed about before my birthday, was not that was gorgeous, but that I felt gorgeous on my big day. Just feeling beautiful can give you the confidence you need and the freedom to enjoy yourself, no matter what happens, and on that day, not only did I feel gorgeous, I thought I looked so too :)
and that really meant a lot to me.
I was able to walk the streets of LA and into a beautiful upscale restaurant like the Bottega Louie like I was meant to be there :) haha sounds silly, but I'm an emotional person, and I want you to understand just how much these experiences mean to me.
My husband and I had a wonderful time.
I ordered my first Alcoholic drink, The Black & Blue: Atlantic Rum, Freshly Muddled Mint, Blackberries, Blueberries, Fresh lime juice & Simple Syrup.
Started with Duck Prosciutto Crostini, Pork Chops as the entree, with Chocolate Soufflé for dessert.
Sadly we were stressed for time to get home through LA traffic, I had hoped to take some pictures around LA, but didn't have the time and had to squeeze them in at the parking complex before we left then some at home before I changed.
It took us an extra hour longer to get home because of traffic, and that really added some stress to the day, so I could have done without that :p
After getting home and greeting my aunt Diane and my mother, I got changed and decorated the cake. We headed off to Chapter one to meet up with my other Aunt Marie and my friends.
Although the food was sub-par and 3 of the people we were expecting didn't show up, my two friends, Alexis and Brianna did, and it was a fantastic evening celebrating with some friends and family.
I got a free birthday drink :) and 2 other drinks with dinner. So I obviously got to make use of my new age.
I would also like to note, that my husband is the best. I mean he was the only guy there and I so appreciate him being there to celebrate with me, even though it was him and a bunch of women.
So thank you my love!
Our friends Greg and Mariah were supposed to come and take us out after dinner, to go to a club or bar hopping, but since they got caught up in some family stuff and couldn't make it we decided to try Mesa, a lounge close to home, that I had been waiting to try out.
Although very busy, and the cover charge was $10/person, the drinks I had were fantastic, I even got a free one from the bartender because of my birthday, had no clue what it was, but I downed it with her :) and afterwards tried a 'Pink Martini' and their 'Lychee Martini' and loved them both! They seemed to have food to, so I hope to go back at some point, especially with friends.
So thats 7 drinks on my birthday, 2 free ones. I did pace myself, drank lots of water in-between my 6 drinks of the night, but I was pretty tipsy. So on our way to the car from mesa I kinda tripped and fell and scraped up my knee pretty good lol. but that kind of added to the 21st birthday experience right? :p lol
All-in-all it was an amazing Birthday, and I know it doesn't sound like a lot, but getting to celebrate with people, and a cake, and actually going out and doing something, meant the world :) and in actuality it was the whole week after my birthday that made it all memorable,
but I'll save that for the next time.